Thursday, October 06, 2005

"if you're not going to eat pussy, you're not a dyke." conversely, if you do, then you are.

I'd take this asshole more seriously if he'd sign his name to anything he wrote. And I'm irritated with myself that I'm even responding--but perhaps I wasn't clear.

___ left me another 5:30 AM comment. "hating men because they disappoint you and being a lesbian are two vastly different things." (No shit. Care to remind me of the differences between your ass and your elbow? ...You do know the difference, right?)

So. Let me clarify. I don't hate men. Not once did I say that I hate men. I hate Rick Santorum, and I'm starting to think that I hate you a little bit, but I don't hate men. I have a great brother and some great male friends. My favorite professor from college was a man. I don't hate entire groups of people--I'm not an idiot.

However, I have decided not to date men. (How many times do I have to say that same sentence??) Why have I made this decision?

Because I've dated men and it hasn't made me happy.

Because I have never been sexually fulfilled by a man.

Because I fantasize about women--only women. I have dated women, and when I did, I felt like I was finally being true to myself.

Even when I was dating this guy, (I am purposely not using his name) I was honest with him about my sexuality and let him know that I prefer women. At some point while I've been with every man I've ever been with, I thought "Maybe I am gay..." So not only is it not fair to me to continue to date men, it's unfair to them. I'd only be wasting both our time.

Am I truly 100% lesbian? No. But no one is 100% anything. (Go watch Kinsey and you'll begin to understand.) I am bisexual, like a lot of people. But I've made a decision not to date men. And if I am a woman who only dates women, what do you think people will see? It's not that I want to adhere to some label. It's that I shouldn't have to explain myself all the fucking time to people who have nothing better to do than bother me about personal things that don't concern them in any way.

So the next time you analyze me, ___, try starting out with a little knowledge. And the balls to attach an identity to what you say.

6 comments:

Scott said...

someone's got nothing better to do than bitch about your blog... (Not I)

Anonymous said...

what can i say, im just a rabbel rouser

SpangledAngel said...

Exactly what someone who has been put, no, excuse me, SLAMMED in his place would say.

Note the consistent anonymity. Typical.

Scott said...

i have no luck w/ men either. maybe i should become a lesbian. i already have the music collection.

Ian Munroe said...
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Scott said...

You've got so much going on in your life that is blog fodder. Yet, no blogging. Go figure.

Seems like your blog has dried up like Barbara Bush's Bush circa the 1950s.